WIFE MATERIAL

One of the things I love doing with my friend is discuss various issues.

Listening give different perspectives, we argue, share and challenge ourselves. Making this world a better place through our different work and hobbies is our highest concerns and I am proud to say that we have already influenced some lives.  A big 5 to US!

A recent conversation we had, was in relation to women and how they are perceived in the society. For some funny reasons, the more beautiful, successful and hardworking a woman is, the less attractive she becomes. Well, most men would not mind using her but when it comes to settling down; she won’t be his first choice. When I was a child, I remember my grandmother telling me over and over again that my first husband should be my studies. She put it so much in my head that I indeed grew up, placing my studies as my highest priority and well, to some extend the experiences I had in my relationships pushed me more towards that aim. Success has always been my greatest ambition and poverty, my greatest fear. And what I have right now is nothing compared to what, by the grace of GOD, I am planning to have and I have no excuse whatsoever for my ambition.

Similarly, there is that ideology that a woman who likes going out is not wife material. I like taking myself as an example because well, I love me, myself and i. I go out rarely because my focus has changed and when I go I do enjoy myself to the fullest. NO, I don’t drink or smoke-never did and hopefully never will. NO, I don’t dirty dance with the first person that approaches me. YES, I get mad, when someone I don’t know hold me by the back and gets close to me on the dance floor and YES, I drink fanta or juice when I am out.  My best friend drinks and YES, she enjoys her alcohol and love to party but NO, she does not dirty dance with the first person who approaches her in a club.

Judging a woman by the company she keeps, by her ambition, the way she dresses, the way she portrays herself tell you nothing about who she truly is. It is so sad that men feel threaten by women with ambition and much more sad that they believe that a woman with ambition cannot be a good wife.  Unfortunately, because of such mentality, women make the worst mistakes of their lives. They get married to the first man who proposes, lack ambition, and limit themselves whereas a man who truly loves her would not limit her but instead help her fulfill her dreams. The worst of all are women who have become soooo desperate that they accept any pathetic treatment a man imposes on them.  I think the worst situation I have ever witnessed is that of a woman who cooked dinner for her boyfriend after finding out he had just cheated on her. Like really? Really? Really? Definitely NOT me, a big slap would have been the one welcoming him home….tchrouuuuuuuu (like the West African do)

Anyway, being a woman is the most beautiful thing in the world. We bring babies to the world who can end up being Obama, Nelson Mandela, Wangari Mathaii, Oprah Winfrey, you name it. We experience the most beautiful feeling of having a baby inside of us, feeling his heartbeat, becoming one with him.  We get hurt, cry, and are emotional which is beautiful because we are in touch with our inner self. We make this world a better place no wonder GOD created EVE after realizing how miserable Adam was:-)

When we work, because of our emotions, selfishness, we take care of others. We help the less fortunate, provide for the hungry and we fulfill what is written is the Bible ‘No man should eat if he doesn’t work’. 

Following a career at the expense of a family is where the problem lies but most women don’t do that. They want to work and similarly desire the support of their partner to do it all. Two is always better than one.

Being a CEO, having properties all over does not make me anything less than a woman who chooses to have no ambition and cook and seat at home. In the long run, it actually makes me better because when the man gets fed up and stop taking care of the children (which they always do), instead of crying, I will be smiling knowing that my children have something to eat.  And again it makes me better because it shows how strong and independent I am, not every woman can work, cook, take care of her husband and children- exceed as a Mother, Wife and a Professional.

Beside as a woman, some of our advantages are :-)

‘1. We got off the Titanic first.
2. We get to flirt with systems support men who always return our calls, and are nice to us when we blow up our computers.
3. Our boyfriend's clothes make us look elfin & gorgeous. Guys look like complete idiots in ours.
4. We can cry and get off speeding fines.
5. Taxis stop for us.
8. Men die earlier, so we get to cash in on the life insurance.
9. Free drinks, Free dinners, Free movies ... (you get the point).
10. We can hug our friends without wondering if she thinks we're gay.

11. We have enough sense to realize that the easiest way to get out of being lost is to ask for directions.’